How to Avoid Dating the Wrong Guy

A lot of women can identify a “jerk” when they are not in a
relationship. The trouble comes in when they get blinded,
distracted or trapped into a relationship that is no longer
healthy. They tend to deny their situation and continue
tolerating the not-so-good guy. They can come up with a lot
of excuses for staying with that type of person. This can be
harmful physically or emotionally, and may create unhealthy
situations.

So, how does a woman make sure she does not choose a
worthless man? Here are ways to avoid dating those type of
guys around you.

First, It is important to know what type of guy you want to
be with. Do you want a guy who is powerful and manipulative?
Do you want a man who is dishonest? Do you want a man who
has a history of being a user and cheater? You have to take
some time to soul search to determine what you truly desire
in a great man and what you need in order to have a long
term healthy and happy relationship.

You have to know the definition of a great man. Our society
and the media often confuse us with the idea that a great
man is someone powerful, rich, attractive, or famous. If you
really want a healthy relationship, you have to realize that
great men are open to learning, and they are comfortable
with not knowing every answer to every question. They have
opinions, but they can listen to others and find a sense of
understanding if not agreement. Great men know the world is
filled with all sorts of people with a variety of beliefs,
opinions,ideas and perspectives. If you are looking for a
great man, find a man who can listen to others, can
understand a variety of world perspectives, and respects
your opinion.

Too often women rush into a relationship because they enjoy
the first few encounters with the jerks since they know how
to have fun. They know how to take advantage and deceive
women. They know what to say and how to say it. They are
good at pretending to be great. They have a good side and
can be as charming as the really great guys. So, you have
to take things slowly.

It is also important that you raise your self-esteem and
self-worth. If you think you are worthless, you will show
that to the world. It will be reflected in your decisions.
If you think you do not deserve a great man, you will pick
a not-so good man. If you currently have low self-esteem,
decide not to engage yet in a relationship until you feel
strong, healthy and great.

You also have to be aware of your behavior. Your actions
might attract jerks rather than the great guy since you're
sending out wrong messages to the world of men. They might
see you as desperate, needy or available for any guy. So,
you have to take time to observe on your behavior,
tendencies and instincts.

Lastly, you have to listen to your gut. Most women,
after a relationship is over, realized that there were
signs all along that the guy was not a good and decent man,
but they chose to ignore their feelings and intuition. You
might as well listen to what your subconscious is telling
you.